Many autistic adults and parents of autistic children tell us they choose not to celebrate bonfire night because it is too noisy, unpredictable and unsettling. For some autistic people, the unexpected nature of displays can cause anxiety and stress, and for those with sensory issues, fireworks can be very distressing.

But – unless you want to avoid it all together – there are ways to make bonfire night a positive experience. Good planning and communication can help you navigate many of these difficulties. Simple changes like agreeing a plan for the evening, letting your autistic neighbours know if you’re releasing fireworks, wearing ear defenders, or even watching firework displays on television at home, can help to ease stress and anxiety.

As ever, it’s important to remember that every autistic child and adult is different and that they must be involved in all planning.

With the help of our Facebook members, we have compiled the following list of tips to help you or your family member enjoy bonfire night from home. 

1) Have a plan and stick to it

Make sure that you talk to your family, or the people you live with, about bonfire night so that everyone knows what to expect, even if you’re not celebrating yourself.
 
If you’re going to have your own fireworks and sparklers, decide what they are going to be and find out as much as possible about what they will look and sound like (this information should come with the firework). Plan when and how you will set them off and explain this to any autistic children or adults who are coming – better still, write it down or have it in a visual story.
 
Stick to the plan as much as you can and, as for anyone who doesn’t like fireworks, give people a chance to go inside or get completely out of the way before you set off any fireworks. 

2) Make sure plenty of food and treats are available – and keep warm

Snacks and drinks (like hot chocolate) can act as a distraction and also help keep everyone calm.
 
Warm clothes can be a great comfort. Find items that help soothe you or your child – such as a weighted vest, favourite toy, or handheld game.  
 

3) Use a set of headphones or ear defenders and be mindful of noise

Ear defenders can help to block noise and reduce the anxiety that people with sensory sensitivities may experience. There are some that block out noise but still allow speech to be heard, which can be reassuring. They can also be helpful for autistic adults, as well as children. 

You could also use a set of noise-cancelling headphones to play music – or ear muffs, which will also help you keep warm.

Be mindful of noise. If you're going to be setting off fireworks, try to warn your autistic neighbours or their family. Or, for autistic people and parents, be sure to have a quiet place to go to if the noise gets overwhelming.
  

4) Give a safety speech

Don't miss this perfect opportunity to talk about fire safety and the dangers associated with fireworks with your family. Be aware that some autistic people’s dislike of fireworks may come from anxiety or fear of being hurt. Reassure them that you are obeying safety rules.

Read more about firework safety for your family, with this information from the Royal Society for the Prevention of Accidents. 

5) Put on the TV

This can drown out the noise of neighbours’ fireworks, if you find loud noises difficult to manage, or just provide a distraction. Try playing predictable music, a favourite TV show or even computer game that will cover the sound.

Or if you don’t want to go outside, you could even watch an online firework display.

6) Set an example

Try to stay calm and have fun when you’re watching fireworks. Being around other people that aren’t scared and are enjoying themselves can have a calming effect and encourage other people, especially children, to relax and have fun too!